THE IMPACTFUL FAMILY (7)

“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones” – Proverbs 16:24

Communication is crucial to building the IMPACTFUL FAMILY: “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones” (Prov.16:24). Our meditation passage unveils key principles for impactful family communication, contrasting the sweet and healing words of the wise, with the speech of the wicked, which sows strife and discord. These principles lay the groundwork for cultivating a home environment that fosters peace, growth, sweetness, health, and strength. 

Words from a wise heart are prudent and persuasive: “The wise in heart will be called prudent, and sweetness of the lips increases learning” (v.21). Such eloquence comes from a place of wisdom, not manipulation. Families with wise members who can communicate effectively and graciously are more likely to learn, grow, and thrive together. Moreover, kind words bring sweetness and healing; and sweetness of speech is persuasive.

Wise speech comes from a wise heart: “The heart of the wise teaches his mouth, and adds learning to his lips” (v.23). This infers that impactful communication begins with inner wisdom and integrity; and this wisdom instructs the mouth. True wisdom in communication isn't just about what we say, but that our words are guided by a heart full of understanding. This leads to speech that is judicious, measured, and thoughtfully considered, especially in difficult family discussions.

The life-giving power of positive and encouraging words is a crucial element for family unity (v.24). In the same way that honey was considered physically healthful in the ancient world, kind and pleasant words are vital for the health of family relationships. They are sweet to the soul, provide spiritual and emotional health, and counter the destructive patterns of harshness, nagging, and constant criticism. This means using our words to affirm, comfort, and encourage, which can soothe hurts and lift spirits.

Harmful words sow conflict and separation: “An ungodly man digs up evil, and it is on his lips like a burning fire. A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends” (vv-27-28). This is a powerful warning against the destructive nature of negative communication. The intent behind words matters. Communication from a wicked heart is destructive. Words used maliciously or carelessly are like fire, spreading conflict and destroying trust. This is a stark reminder to families to guard against anger, bitterness, and malice; avoiding gossip, slander, and perverse speech that can damage even the closest bonds.

Finally, Proverbs 16:32-33 champions self-control over raw power: “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty...” Self-control is more valuable than strength. The ability to control one's temper is more valuable than winning an argument through force or intimidation. Self-controlled communication builds trust; while losing one's temper causes damage. Knowing that God is ultimately in control encourages humility in communication. The ultimate outcome of any situation is in God's hands (v.33).